How to get him to say I love you? How to get him to fall in love with you? Normally, you would not be seeking advice from your friends to learn how to make a guy fall in love with you. Best friends do help, but the tips they offer are very conventional and sometimes very predictable so that is a no-go zone.
However, you do not have to worry as you have come to the right place and you are about to read the best ways to get a guy to love you. Once you properly understand the rules of attraction, you will have him following your steps in no time.
Before starting, you should know his likes and dislikes, especially the connections you both have. You should know if there is something that both you and your dream-man like. It could be anything from sports, to food, to movies, to music.
What You'll Learn Today
How To Get Him To Fall In Love With You
1. Do not disclose everything, stay mysterious
You may have noticed that you are always curious about a guy who is quiet and mysterious. Even in stories and novels, we read about brooding heroes who are hiding something.
Curiosity raises our interest in them, and we want to know everything that they are hiding from us. Do you get my point? Stay a little mysterious and not put everything on the table. If you want him to fall for you, start by talking and disclosing less.
Boys and men love mysterious women and they will try to learn more about you by asking a million question. Do not give in, keep the secrets intact. Keep your conversation, both online and offline, very casual in the beginning, and do not go deep into your life story, about your dreams, goals, and fears.
You can think of dating as your favorite suspense novel, so do not turn the pages or peak at the ending before reading the whole book. Telling your secrets to your date could result in him losing all interest in you. Turn the pages slowly to keep him interesting in your life and let him crave for more.
2. Become his missing half
According to relationship experts, while searching for their ideal mate, men tend to go for women who fill the void that is missing in their life.
Both men and women gravitate to people who are not only like them, but who also create a balance in their life. For example, a man suffering from low self-confidence or low self-esteem would go for a bubbly girl who brings confidence into his life. Subconsciously, a guy will feel attracted to you if you fill the void in his life.
3. Copy him
It sounds a little creepy but it isn’t. By copying him, we do not mean copy what he says or wears. We mean do what he does. If you both go for a friendly lunch, take a sip of your beverage when he does.
If he leans in towards you to tell you something, then lean in to hear it. This will make him think that you are paying attention to him and that you both are on the same wavelength. He will not be able to stop getting more attracted to you and will want to know more about you.
4. Adventure is the way to man’s heart, not food
Old wives’ tales say that the way to man’s heart is food. While that may be right for some men, it is not for all. Men like adventure.
Some men, including the one you like, may act differentially, but in the end, they all like adventure. You both could go hiking, cycling or swimming together to get out of that terrible “friend zone” and into the “love zone.”
According to a 1974 study by Arthur Aron and Donald Dutton, there is a strong link between anxiety and sexual arousal. In this study, a group of men stood on a shaky bridge while another group of men stood on a stable bridge. A beautiful woman asked each man a set of questions.
The woman gave the men her cell number at the end of the interview. It was found in the results that the men standing on the shaky bridge reached out and called the woman more than the men on the stable bridge. The correlation between anxiety and attraction was linked.
My Final Thoughts
So, you’ve been dating for a while, and you have yet to hear those three little words. How to get him to say “I love you?” Well, unfortunately, there is no hard and fast way to do this.
He may have not said it yet because he is taking things slow, or because he is a little scared of the intensity of his feelings. He could be just enjoying where your relationship is – or, sadly, he may have no intention of saying it at all.
As in any situation – and relationships in particular – the best thing to do is to talk about it. You do not have to always wait for him to make the first move!
If you are feeling the flutterings of the L word but you are not sure how he feels, why not try talking to him about it? It doesn’t have to be a scary, serious conversation that instantly signifies total commitment, but who doesn’t like to be told that they are loved?
Take the plunge. Tell him how you are feeling – and who knows, it might just open his floodgates and make him feel comfortable enough to declare his true feelings.
If you want more advice, you can take a look at this post about signs that tell you he may be attracted to you.